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You may be on his Favorites list but he hasn’t had the opportunity to contact you yet.

Here is my question: Are men ok with women sending introductory emails to them? In some ways, I see a email hello similar to a come-hither look at a bar, etc.

but in other ways it seems very aggressive and therefore a turnoff to most men. Dear Jane, Your question brings up two of the most common mistakes that women make in online dating: 1) Waiting for Men to Write to You First 2) Telling Him What You Like About His Profile First things first: Men LOVE it when women write to them. If you have an attractive photo, interesting essay, and you’re in his target demographic, why WOULDN’T he be excited to hear from you?

Eg, say you both have a love for adventure travel — you see that he’s been trekking in Nepal, and has visited the Amazon…

We’re not going to lie here, sending your first message is pretty daunting; so here are some tips to help you to make the first move.

Well, you can start by remembering these three basic rules: It’s not that “You’ve got a great smile, let’s go out sometime” is a bad opener. I read your profile and thought it was really amazing. So please look at my profile and if you like what I had to say, write back to me when you get a chance. If you’re too complimentary in that initial email, you can come off as desperate and needy. Still, the question remains: how do you say something original and flirty?

Yours, Evan Every line of this message can be thrown out. Because anyone whom you contact knows by virtue of you writing to them that a) you liked their profile, b) you liked their photo and c) you’d like a reply. That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. In this case, I’ve written them for men replying to women, but the steps are applicable to everyone: Every word of it.

But when it comes to acting on that statement, most of them don’t. In fact, I think I’m posting this on JDaters Anonymous.

I could be making a vast generalization, but to an extent, this doesn’t matter.

Flattery will get you everywhere – Everybody enjoys a compliment, but there’s a fine line between giving a friendly compliment and seeming creepy.

It’s better to compliment someone’s profile than their looks as it shows that you’ve taken the time to learn more about them and aren’t objectifying them.

So why would you write an email that does the same thing?!